Emotional Intelligence: The New Flex Humanity Needs.

I’m sitting here in a lovely, earthy café, feeling the need and the call forward to write my first blog.

There’s something about stepping away, breathing in stillness, and letting the world slow down that creates space for truth to surface.

It’s been a reflective few days for me.

I’ve felt both sadness, heaviness and a rising within me as I’ve leant into my own perspectives and the behaviour of humanity.

And what I see, what I feel, is a deep disjointedness.

After the recent events, I’ve begun to question: when & why did we become so divided?

Left against right. Gay against straight. White against black. Religious preferences. Vaxed or Unvaxed Them against us.

There always seems to be something that pits us against each other.

If you don’t agree with someone’s ideals or opinions, you’re cancelled, ridiculed, shamed and sometimes even killed.

The problem I beleive isn't difference. The problem is how we meet that difference.

Listening itself isn’t the issue — it’s how we listen.

Most of us don’t truly hear each other. We hear to react, not resond.

We filter what’s being said through our own beliefs, wounds, and conditioning.

Instead of receiving anothers perspective with curiosity, we attach meaning to it, take it as a threat, and then respond with an attack.

When did hate become such a big part of our lives?

And to be fully transparent, I’ve leant into the energy of hate myself, it’s a fire that devours you.

But I’ve also learned that hate doesn’t build. It burns.

And maybe that’s where the conversation begins.

We’ve forgotten how to disagree without destroying each other.

In a world that thrives on outrage, the real strength isn’t in how loud you shout, it’s in how deeply you listen.

Hate isn’t just an emotion. It’s a fire.

It consumes everything it touches — including the one who holds it.

Hate is both a verb and a noun.

According to the Webster dictionary, hate comes with intense hostility and aversion, and it usually derives from fear, anger, or a sense of injury.

It’s not neutral energy. It’s heavy, contracting, and corrosive.

On David Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness, it sits inside the survival paradigm at the lower end of the scale and holds a low vibration of 150.

Hate views life and the world through an antagonistic lens, fuelled by vengenance and driven by aggression, rooted in fear, scarcity and separation.

It is characterised by irritation, frustration, rage, and often a desire for control or dominance.

And when we come from a place of hate, we cut off curiosity, the very thing we need to expand our own minds and consciousness.

When we hold hate in our bodies, it doesn't just stay "out there" in the world, it shapes us from the inside out.

It creates heaviness.

It disconnects us from our soul.

Over time, it becomes dis-ease, a weight carried in the nervous system, spilling out as aggression & separation.

Hate doesn’t allow us to ask why.

It doesn’t allow us to listen. It closes the door to growth.

Hate never creates. It only consumes.

Here’s the deeper truth: hate is also a tool.

This is how they keep us controlled and tied to the system.

Division is their strongest weapon — because when we’re at war with each other, we forget our collective power.

The system we are all in feeds on chaos & it only works if we feed it.

Imagine how powerful we could be as a society, as a collective, if we put aside our differences and rose together.

When you reclaim full control over your thoughts and emotions, you reclaim your self-sovereignty.

This is about self-sovereignty.

The ability to stand firm in your own energy, free from external manipulation, grounded in emotional mastery, and a sovereign human cannot be controlled.

Emotional Intelligence : The New Flex.

Emotional intelligence isn't a soft skill. It's radical courage.

It's choosing to:

• Listen with openness & curiosity when you'd rather lash out.

  Instead of firing back, pause long enough to hear the story beneath the words.

• Hold your centre when triggered.

  Notice the rush of emotion, breathe into it, and give yourself space before you respond. This is how you shift from reaction to choice.

• Speak your truth without weaponising it.

  Say what needs to be said, with integrity, not as a sword to wound, but as a stand for clarity.

  
  

Emotional intelligence is the muscle that allows us to rise above division without abandoning our truth

It takes courage to disagree without hate speech.

It takes strength to stand in your truth even when it may be unpopular.

And it takes emotional intelligence to hold space for multiple perspectives without the need to attack the other side.

This isnt about agreeing with everyone to keep the peace and remaining voiceless.

It's about not losing yourself in the fire of hate

Hate is easy.

Emotional intelligence is brave.

"The future of humanity won't be shaped by who can shout the loudest, but by those who can listen, reflect, and rise above the division".

And maybe that's the invitation for all of us right now:

to slow down, breath, and ask - what kind if energy am I adding to the world around me ?

Because every thought, every word, every reaction ripples outward.

When we choose presence over hate, curiosity over judgement, we create the space for something new to be born.

Ask yourself: Where am I feeding hate in my life ?

Where can I choose presence, love and emotional intelligence instead.

Hate cannot drive out hate.

Only love can drive out hate.

These are my reflections — my perspective, my lived experience, my truth.

I don’t hold them as the only way, but as an offering.

If something here provokes, triggers, or resonates with you, let it be an invitation to explore what it awakens in you.

Because at the end of the day, I believe emotional intelligence isn’t just a flex — it’s the foundation for a future where we rise above division without abandoning ourselves.

With love, Roni

Provoker of Truth/Disruptor,

Founder of The Wild Heart Way™